11-18-02 5:29am

Katie dear, people are trying to live life to the fullist and they find someone to share it with at the time. Dating is basically going out and trying to search for that someone special for them. There really isn't another way to do it, unless you find someone you kinda like and just marry them. But that would be stupid. At least here in America we get our chose as to who we marry and who we date. In India young children are married off to someone because the parents see it proper, but it is also the Hindu way. Dating is not suppose to be a treacherous, feared thing, it's something people go out and enjoy doing. They find someone with commone intrests and share thoughts and ideas with them. Sorry if this reply is kinda messed up, it is 5:30 in the morning after all.

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Jackie, 11-18-02 2:25pm

True while some may see it as harmless fun, what is so fun about it? You say its practice for marrige. I say its practice for devorce. All that happens is that people go out and hurt each other. I mean, come on, I'm guessing that an average teen has at least three different boyfriend/girlfriends. How is that preparing you for marrage? All that is saying is "opps sorry, wrong person. I'll have to try again next time". How is that helping? I know from some of the worst expeirence that I've ever had that all that really comes from it is pain. Look at it this way, if you only have three relationships before you get married, two of them will be unsucssesfull and end in a hurting most likely one if not both of the people. Plus, how is a person suppose to do what God plans if they are constantly focusing all their attention on their partner? Thanks, but no thanks. I'm going to enjoy my gift of singleness until I know that I have fufilled all that God wants me to before I even concider the courtship (different then dating) of a man.

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11-18-02 9:26pm

Woh, Kate, you're still not seeing the picture. Dating is not wasting time, and yes, it's "training" you for how to act in trying to find "the one". Sheesh hun, why do you have to look at things like they will always hurt you? Yes, some realtionships will hurt, but they are suppose to hurt. It only makes your stronger and have a healthier realtionship with God. You say how? Well, think about it. Someone hurts you, and you ask for God to help you through the pain and continue on with life. Don't forget them, keep them close. And just because you have a boyfriend doesn't mean that you're not doing Gods bidding. You are still close to him. Realtionships have to be evenly balanced to be able to work. You can't give all your time and attention to your boyfriend/girlfriend, you have to have your own seperate life along with the one with him/her. Just because you're dating someone doesn't mean that you have to be with them 24/7.

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11-18-02 2:01pm

I totally agree with you, Kt!

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???, 11-19-02 2:52pm

I geuss I would say that it is the fact that people don't want to live life alone, and that they think that if your not there boy friend or Girl friend then there is nothing keeping them from being "stolen" from them. We all know that that isn't true, but I think that when society is implying it everyday into our lifes, we get a sort of brain wash effect. Another thing is that none of use know we are invinceable and that we can be the victim of anything. We can walk out of school and die in a car acciedent. Love is invicneable and so we naturally hope that that trait will rub of, and in the end, when we relieze that the person is not the one, it is like Samson marching of not reliezing that his stregth is gone, we hope and pray that it is the right thing, and then we relieze we based the whole thing on self-consuming passi0on, not love. The only way we will find this out is through humility. Nobody knows though, what if you do find that one you will marry? Is it all right. I geuss that is why we have prayer, and the Bible (Basic Instruction Before Leave Earth) BIBLE. :) Smile, life is great, don't be a victim of self-consuming passion.

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Re: ???, 11-19-02 9:16pm

Yes! That is basicly what i have been trying to say.

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Re: Re: ???, 12-18-02 11:18pm

Sorry, I was reading random journals and wanted to give my input. I dated a few guys through highschool, and I am very glad I did. I pretty much knew I was not going to marry any of them (except the guy i'm currently with). However, I have learned a lot about myself because of those relationships. I believe relationships of all kind are what makes life fulfilling. Because I had those boyfriends, I learned a lot about compromise, and about what I refuse to compromise. Because it is a different type of relationship from friendship you will learn different things from it. I have also had some great experiences because of my past boyfriends. I know that this is a little more shallow, but there is usually some love between a boyfriend and girlfriend, whether you're actually in love or not. And feeling loved and cared for in that way is a great feeling, especially when its from someone who is important to you.

Just one last note: I am still dating the guy I consider my "highschool sweetheart" and we are both now in college, living 100 miles apart, and as close as ever. Although most highschool relationships do end sooner than later, you never know. You might just actually find someone special who will be a big part of your life regardless of when you get married or if you marry them.

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Re: Re: ???, 12-18-02 11:19pm

Sorry, I was reading random journals and wanted to give my input. I dated a few guys through highschool, and I am very glad I did. I pretty much knew I was not going to marry any of them (except the guy i'm currently with). However, I have learned a lot about myself because of those relationships. I believe relationships of all kind are what makes life fulfilling. Because I had those boyfriends, I learned a lot about compromise, and about what I refuse to compromise. Because it is a different type of relationship from friendship you will learn different things from it. I have also had some great experiences because of my past boyfriends. I know that this is a little more shallow, but there is usually some love between a boyfriend and girlfriend, whether you're actually in love or not. And feeling loved and cared for in that way is a great feeling, especially when its from someone who is important to you.

Just one last note: I am still dating the guy I consider my "highschool sweetheart" and we are both now in college, living 100 miles apart, and as close as ever. Although most highschool relationships do end sooner than later, you never know. You might just actually find someone special who will be a big part of your life regardless of when you get married or if you marry them.

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