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| abydospersephone (profile) wrote, on 10-20-2004 at 10:33pm | |
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| I've not updated in a while. Hmm. For a while I didn't understand why my first Sarah (that's Cruthirds, not Cabali) was so unhappy with some of her friends treating her in an unfriendly manner. The solution seemed simple to me: ditch them and get new friends. But it's difficult to ditch people you care about, even if they don't care about you or don't act towards you in a manner you deem necessary or appropriate. Or desired, I suppose. That's why I finally understand why Sarah was getting (is still?) so upset. To some extent, I'm the same way. To the majority of my friends, I don't share much about myself, but when I do it tends to be in large quantities. It also tends to be things I've been mustering up the wording or the guts to say in the first place. It's not easy talking about some things. I definitely know that. Yet...it still stings when they don't return the gesture. It'd be nice if I got a bit of sharing in return, if only to reassure me that what I shared was accepted as something shared. Sure it's selfish, but is that bad? Anyway, it could be argued that the finger is to be pointed at Sarah in her case and me in mine -- that we are the ones at fault because our expectations of our friends are too high. That's possibly partially true. Perhaps they were/are. But friendships are a two-way tango, so some fault lies in the offending party as well. I have no real clue as to why I'm rambling about this, but it spewed forth after that "Hmm." ^-^¿ |
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| Anonymous | 10-21-04 4:40am You have my comment waiting in your inbox. ;p But since you like comments here you'll get one here.
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| Anonymous | 10-22-04 1:53am I don't think it's fair to say that expectations for friends are too high. I think you should expect the world of your friends, and I think you should give the world to your friends.
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