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moana (profile) wrote,
on 3-7-2005 at 8:17pm
Subject: It's Women's Day tomorrow...

The argument on whether man or woman is most valuable reminds me of the argument about the chicken and the egg, and frankly I'm sick and tired of both arguments. I can say all I want to say about how men are better because they can do this, and women are better because they can do that, and how one can't survive without the other no matter what, but at the end of the day, neither side is gonna hear what I've got to say about the opposite side. You just want to hear me talk about you, and you want me to get done fast so you can talk about you.

But I am a woman, and nothing can change that. It's not my body that makes me a woman, it is my soul and my mind and my heart, and I wouldn't trade off any of those things for the world. I might as well sell my soul to the devil because I'd just as soon sell my heart and my mind. I have no intention of doing any of it, because I am a woman, and that's how I want to remain, with or without your consent.

And when I tell a man, "Hey you, treat me how I want to be treated," he says, "Woman, you're crazy! But if you wanna be treated like a man that's how I'll treat you." And the women, they all say, "Yes! Treat me like a man!" and the men will beat on them and they will hurt them and they will steal their money and they will leave them, because that's how men treat other men and that's how women treat other women because that's how people treat people. And when it happens women say, "But I'm a woman, and a man that beats on a woman is no man at all!" But you just said 'treat me like a man' and he gave you what you wanted. But that wasn't what you wanted.

You say "I have the grief of men, I have to work and slave and pay the bills and look after my children and then the men will give me none of their perks." You like to say, "I can do anything that a man can do!" Well when was the last time you heard a man complain about doing all the things that women do and getting none of their perks? There are no perks! You get the perks of being a human being, not the perks of your reproductive organs.

I am a woman, and I don't want to be treated like a man. I am a woman and I can run and jump and I can play sports and I can dance and I can make men fall in love with me and I can work and I can make money and I can walk in high heels and I can cook and I can clean and do the laundry and I can walk and I can saunter and I can cheat and I can steal and I can lie and hurt and I can beat on other people and take away their love and I can break a man's heart and I can do all those things because I am a woman. I don't do anything 'in spite of' being a woman, I do them because I am a woman, and you will treat me as such.

I am not a doll, I am not a baby, so don't call me 'baby doll'. And if I sell my body to you don't think I'll sell my soul. And you say you just want to know, you say, "You want the right to vote?" And I say, "You damned right I do, and if you're not gonna give it to me I'm just gonna take it because I can, and I will. Treat me right because I won't let you treat me any other way." And if man says, "Woman, you're crazy! But if you wanna be treated like a man that's how I'll treat you," you turn right round and say, "No, you fool, you will not treat me like a man. You will treat me like a woman because that's what I am."
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ac

03-07-05 12:31pm

You can walk in high heels? hahahaha. funny one.

I like that. Except I wouldn't go around saying "Treat me like a woman." just treat me like a damn human being and we're good. Treat me like a mental equal and we're good.

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moana

high heels, 03-07-05 12:52pm

I can run in em too, and kick your midget ass while I'm at it. ;)

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guajiragoddess

03-08-05 10:26am

I really shouldn't comment, I should just write an entire rebuttal entry.

But I can't resist...

I've got news for you. Your body has a lot to do with you being a woman. Maybe not yours, but mine does. All kinds of women at law practices never make it to partner because they have to leave at a certain age to go have babies. It's biological. My grandma isn't going to get mad at my husband for not leaving his job to raise our kids, she's going to get mad at me. If we're both stubborn, it will be MY fault. It's nothing I can help by being able to run in heels. And by the way, you can't play sports. You can't run faster or jump higher or box harder. If you and another guy start training at the same time, he'll surpass you because they were programmed to do it. It's not socialization, it's biology. You can be socialized into being more logical and less emotional. But you can't be socialized into having bigger muscles, it won't happen. Ask Laurence, it's hormones. Now, I'd rather have Marion Jones running my races over my basketball coach, but that's because she chose to train. Ceteris Paribus, they've got biology on their side.

PS - Your case about wanting to be treated like a man and then crying about it makes perfect sense. But good lord, all women are not the same, and i'll never ask someone to treat me like one. Sure I want a little romance in my romance, but ....

Ok you know what, when I get back to school we'll talk because this is turning out to be the entry I decided not to write.

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moana

Re:, 03-08-05 11:26am

*scratches head*

Um, sweetheart.. you're barking up the wrong tree.

I didn't say biology had nothing to do with being a woman. Obviously, it does, and especially for me, it has a lot to do with my body. Where would I be without sexuality? I'm just saying it's a lot more than just my vagina that makes me a woman.

I never said I could run faster or jump higher or box harder. I just said I could run, jump (did I say box? I can't box personally). The fact that your grandma's going to get mad at you for not taking care of your kids but not at your husband/their father is a social issue that I don't even want to touch with a ten-meter pole.

This isn't about having bigger muscles and being physically stronger. It's just about being a woman, completely a woman. I don't want to be treated like the opposite sex because I can't be the opposite sex, and the opposite sex can't be me. Like I said, each side's got their own strengths and weaknesses, and contrary to what my father's trying to tell me, women's strength is NOT good taste. Not for me anyway.

This is just me asking to be treated like a woman. It might be the part of me that's a little tired of being 'one of the boys' mingled with the part of me that's a little tired of being the 'choice-dream girl'. I'm not saying this is all women, not at all.

So just take a step back, Dani, and read this as if I were talking about me instead of generalizing women.

*pat pat* Thanks for reading though. *faygo grin*

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