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m&ms487 (profile) wrote,
on 2-26-2006 at 7:46pm
Current mood: scared
Music: Handel - Messiah
It's quite cold in my house right now. Maybe I'm just the one that's cold.
Finished reading Madame Bovary. It's a very interesting novel. It reminds me of a quote that I heard on a show a little while back that didn't even make it a full season:

"Men are romantics pretending to be realists and women are realists who pretend to be romantics."

I remember hearing that and it struck me. I'm not quite sure I know exactly HOW it struck me, it just did. I believe it's very true. Very realistic. It must have been thought of by a woman......

I'm very scared about the next few months. I'm so busy. But sometimes that really works out because I use that little time that i have a lot more wisely. I don't sit down and watch tv for a few hours, I get my homework done because I know that when I get that done it will be time to go to sleep, then time to wake up and go to school or work and do the same thing all over again. I like how it keeps me busy. I just get tired sometimes. I get scared that I won't be able to get what needs to be done done. I need to memorize my scales very badly. I have exactlly 29 days before S and E and limited time before my auditions for the school of music. I wish I had memorized them when I was in middle school, it's so hard now. I hate our education system. They keep the fine arts, but only enough to the point where students know where they need to get after all of it to make things happen, but they don't have the training they need to make it, and they know it. I know it. I met so many talented people at honors band. They knew so much. I felt like I was in sixth grade again. I think I was more naturally inclined than most, but they had training, and that's all that matters. They've had tons of music theory, expensive private lessons, and opportunities to perform and support from their school that I can't even imagine. I get told by people every day that I just need to settle for how horrible some people in our music program are, and I know how good people can be, how "good" i am, but compared to everyone else out there, how far behind I am and how much more ahead I could be if only I had those few opportunities, and now here I am, almost at the end of the line, getting ready to jump off the airplane and I don't even know how to work my parachute. It might as well be a suicide jump.
But I can't settle, because I know that when I get there it'll all be worthwhile, but can I get there? How? That's my question.
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spinder

02-28-06 3:01pm

The difference between "Man" and "Woman" Is vastly different than the differences between "With Penis" and "With Vagina"

Men and women are just useful stereotypes. The only true differences between them are there anatomy - and nothing more.

Everything else comes from ourselves, and must be considered differently.


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m&ms487

Re:, 03-01-06 5:33am

I woefully disagree with you, dear. Men and women have different amounts of hormones in their bodies which causes their brains to form differently, and don't get me started on how they are affected by culture once they pop out......

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spinder

Re: Re:, 03-02-06 10:46am

Ahh, my muddle-headed love, I feal I must crush you this time.

I state, although not directly, that there is a difference between sexual anatomy and sexual identity. And that the difference between sexual anatomy and sexual identity is significant enough that one should not use the two interchangeably. To recap - only "true" differences are that of anatomy. And "Everything else" must be considered in a different tier than anatomy.

You then go on to attack my statement with a very illogical argument. First, you use the statement "Man or woman, (I.e. referring to sexual identity), and then say that these "men and woman" have different amounts of hormones. This is untrue, because I've probably worked with a few woman who had penises. I do not think that made them men, that made them - "with penis", for they were women to a large degree.

If you had said "People with Penis's and People with Vaginas have different amounts of hormones -- etc" than you still could not have claimed victory, because in recognizing the differences between sexual identity and sexual anatomy you would have inadvertently been advancing my original point.

And should you get started on how culture affects babies - just remember that it’s only the reinforcement of the worlds biggest, and perhaps most useful, stereotype.

And to give you a useful tool when thinking. If it can only be changed with a knife, its probably sexual anatomy, if it can be changed without medical intervention, than it’s probably sexual identity.


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danibean

03-14-06 10:00am

hey i totally know how you feel michelle. i just stumbled upon your journal and i felt so many emotions come out when i read this!! first, i'm so glad you did honors band!! it's fun huh? i'm still friends with some people i met there in the past few years. they're all music majors here. honestly, i don't think you have anything to worry about. don't let cedar's crap band program get you down. it got me down, and now look...i'm not even a music major when i could have been. plus, half those other people aren't even seniors and won't be auditioning. i don't know where your plans are as far as where you want to go..but CMU is awesome! we have such an amazing music program here. i play in one of the bands here and it's just so much fun to play with people that want to be there...unlike cedar! so don't be discouraged, everything will work out. just keep your confidence up and your dream alive and you'll get there. good luck with everything and let me know how you did!! see ya!

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