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rayray (profile) wrote,
on 12-11-2011 at 10:16pm
I need to vent, while my child is screaming it out by herself.
At my house, its not considered "cry it out".. It's screaming it out, or being murdered. She has a set of lungs, and doesn't let up. Like at all. Ever. She doesn't know how to self soothe. She screams bloody murder, and would go on for HOURS and probably days if I let her. She is stubborn. I'm scared she's going to choke on all the saliva/snot she makes from all the screaming, or when she gets to the point where she throws up. Luckily, she always seems to throw up on the floor and not in her bed or all over herself.

From January to November, once she was asleep at night, she wouldn't wake up til about 8ish.. Once in awhile it would be a little early, and then it started getting later.. And I had her going to sleep in her own bed, on her own. Since the time change/her first birthday, she was waking up between 6 and 7.. Once I got her to sleep til 8 or later, she has been waking up a million times during the night. When she is in her crib, awake, she screams bloody murder like she is being attacked. She could be dead asleep, and the second she touches the mattress in her bed, she is screaming so bad, her body stiffens right out.

I can't seem to win. And now Mike is on 3rd shift, so I have to get her to sleep before he goes to work, otherwise it'll be 10 times harder to get her to go to sleep..

So far, she has been screaming for 12 minutes, and Tyson keeps whining and barking like he needs to go protect her.

I feel like a bad mom for complaining about my child, but I miss sleep. Good sleep, where I don't wake up a million times, or in pain from having to make room for everyone else and sleeping all funky.

22 minutes later, she is still screaming, but not nearly like she was.. And a half an hour ago, she was passed out in my bed and had been sleeping since 9..
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skife

12-12-11 10:16am

have you tried playing music when you lay her down for a nap?

i do that with tucker and he usually sleeps alot longer for some reason.

throw on a "beatles" or "elton john" pandora station.

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rayray

Re: , 12-12-11 10:45am

Yes. She will still cry forever because I'm not holding her. Seriously, the moment I hold her, she is instantly out. And when she is out cold, I will go to put her in her bed, and she instantly wakes up when she touches her mattress.

She fell asleep shortly after I posted this, and I waited about 20 minutes before going back to the bedroom, and me being in the room, woke her up even though I wasn't making any noise. I let her scream for about 20-30 more minutes, and she wasn't giving in. So I cuddle her, and she sat there watching tv with me. But then I had to pee, and move the heater, so I put her in her bed and she screamed for a bit, but then just sat down and looked around, and eventually laid down and went to sleep. It's just frustrating because she was asleep at 9, but when i put her in her bed at 10, she was up til 12. And then she wakes up still tired at 8.

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jordanmackenzie7

Re: Re: , 12-12-11 7:33pm

Firstly, don't you ever feel like a bad mother for being stressed out. It's not all sunshine and roses, and your baby seems to be a lot more difficult than a lot of peoples'.

Second... If she's waking up when you put her down in her crib, it may be because it's cold. Have you ever tried turning on a heating pad where you're going to lay her head before you put her down and then taking it away as you lay her down..? That was something that was suggested to me... I've never tried it, but it's an idea...

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rayray

Re: Re: Re: , 12-13-11 9:56am

I haven't tried that. But last night I told her I was giving Tank her bed, and put him in there for a couple minutes. 10 minutes later, she was passed out on my chest hugging me, and didn't wake up when I put her in her bed, or at all during the night. She woke up at 7, and I turned cartoons on and crawled back in bed, so I could wake up a little bit, and I look over and she is back to sleep.

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chelthesmell

12-13-11 12:20pm

You are a wonderful mom! Dont ever think otherwise or else you'll lose this battle. My son is almost 3 and we have days that are perfect and days where he makes me feel like I must have done some wrong down the road because he's just terrible somedays. Thats how it's been his whole life, and that's how every child is. Just different situations. It's hard, then super easy, then hard again. And I'm assuming that's the way it'll be their whole lives things may change in life, but it will always be either easy or hard to raise them at different points in time.

Have you talked to the doctor about it? Or asked about it at the WIC appointments. WIC esspecially, the nurses always have great advice for any situation. I ask about potty training and temper tantrums all the time. Those women always have some sort of advice for my questions and it's great help to have. Esspecially from an outside perspective.

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rayray

Re: , 12-13-11 12:26pm

They always make me feel like I am terrible mom, and that I am not following all the "rules". I want to tell them to shove it up their ass. haha

Some days she goes to sleep super easy, some days I want to pull my hair out, and run away because she is out of control and fights sleep so bad. It started when she was about 4 months old, and it was just a phase. It got better for months and months. Since she turned one, it seems like everything has changed, and she is an entirely different kid.

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