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skife (profile) wrote, on 7-23-2008 at 3:48am | |
so, i've figured out my relationship problem. the reason i can't ever get into a relationship that is good anymore is a trust issue, no matter how great the girl is, i don't think i'll ever be able to be in love, i was fucked over once along time ago, and now i've always got my defences up being prepared to shit to hit the fan, its made me cold. No idea how to fix this though. |
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pjlmaster | 07-23-08 5:21am you have to put yourself out there once or twice and actually NOT have your shit smashed all to hell when you do |
duckie | 07-23-08 9:07am i had serious trust issues due to my childhood being shattered into pieces, and its taken a LONG time to get to where i am now, and im still working on my trust issues. i was a pretty jaded individual when pj and i first started talking, and trusting him fully was a decision that i just had to make, and its something that i continually work on. it helps that hes extremely easy to talk to and non judgmental.
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feastingonapete | 07-23-08 9:27am ^ what those guys said
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box | Re:, 07-26-08 9:43pm This may piss of some off the girls in here, and im sorry if it does but this needs to be said. Finding a girl who wont screw you over these days is slim to none. Unfortunantly the way our generation was raised really screwed many of us over for the future. Most People our age, Men and women, Are a bunch of sheep and they do what others tell them to, most of you will deny it, but everyone subconsiosly jumps on the band wagon.. it makes me sick how many people are willing to vote for someone because a hollywood idle said so.. instead of forming their own opinion based on facts they found themselves.. they believe what people tell them Seriously.. just because Kanye fucking west says that george bush hates black people.. does that make it true?? Thats like Micheal Jackson saying His Jesus Juice Cures Cancer.
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box | Re: Re:, 07-26-08 11:10pm I think mainly what im trying to say is.. when you find the right person it will just happen, but if spend too much time seeking that person out, in the end your going to have a laundry list of relationships that failed, i think patience is the key, after bonnie i realised that i didnt need to be in a hurry to find someone to settle down with, when "I am ready" and the time comes it will happen, untill then i am just enjoying my life and concentrating on what I need to do to get where i want to go, and i think thats the most important thing to worry about, Im not saying you should be selfish and just lookout for number 1 or anything, but take the freedom and time you have and invest it into what you already have and make it into something, and if you meet that person along the way then great!
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chelthesmell | 07-23-08 9:43am I used to be the same way after my ex and I broke up. He cheated on me and I just found out all of this terrible stuff that he did while we were together it made me cold and bitter as well. I started going through a bad time where I'd party alot and didn't really about anything. But I knew I wouldn't get my heartbroken because I wouldn't let anyone in. I think it just takes that one special person to change you. You'll sind someone someday that will just make something in your mind click and you will change with no effort. Heartbreak is the worst and I think it really just takes one person to break you but it also takes just one person to put you back together. |
chelthesmell | Re:, 07-23-08 9:46am Geeze there are quite a few errors in there! lol! I think I actually just didn't put a word in at one point either! Man I just at advice because you cant understand me...
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skippi16 | 07-23-08 2:50pm You will find someone i know it.... i have been there. Having your heart broken is one of the hardest things to deal with but trust me Beaver, your a wonderful guy and you WILL find someone who will love you and take care of you just like you deserve, and trust is something you will gain back, just let it take the time it needs. |