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kinkyrose1212 (profile) wrote, on 9-20-2012 at 3:03am | |
My life has been getting to the point where I've been preparing to cut myself, as well as kill myself. I am nothing but a fat, ugly, gross, worthless piece of shit. I am a complete waste of life and space. I wish suicide were easier. If I had a gun, I'd definitely shoot myself. When you research ways to commit suicide on the internet most sites tell you not to overdose on pills because it takes a long time, you can throw them up, etc. but despite the fact that they are talking about an illegal act, they never mention that you can just overdose on illegal drugs, like heroin. I wish I could just take so much DXM that I died because DXM was my thing for so long and I did almost die once. For me, DXM would just be the most fitting way to commit suicide, and the most logical, too, if I was still doing it on a regular basis. But, not having done it for months, if I tried to OD that badly, I would throw up which would defeat the whole purpose and if I built myself up to a lethal level over time, my parents would probably find out and I'd get kicked out before I had a chance to finish the job. If I was going to kill myself anyway it really wouldn't matter, but I don't want to die out on the streets, especially not in this fucking city which I loathe. It's not the city itself. Were I here on vacation, it would be really cool. But the fact that I didn't have much choice in living here and how when I moved out here it became so much clearer to me how pathetic my life is and how much of a fucking loser I am makes me despise this city. I've been trying to find a job, for a change, and so far it isn't working out. I'm trying to get into Job Corps. but God knows how long that will take. And if I can't stand that place, either, or if I get kicked out for some reason? What then? If I can't stand it, that's one thing. I'll make myself deal with it and at least I'll be occupied most of the time and working towards a career, even if I don't fucking want to do what I'm going for, it's just the best of all the bad options. And I'll tell myself that Job Corps. isn't forever, whereas here, in this hated house, I can only see the time stretching on and out. We all die, anyway, why not sooner rather than later? What kind of authority does another person have to tell me that life is worth living and there is shit to look forward to? Even if there is, what if I don't care? Because even if there is good, I will always have this underlying feeling of " What's the point if I'm going to die, anyway? Why should I bother? It's not going to amount to shit. " | |
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katiecat | 09-22-12 6:15pm I know exactly where you're coming from. I am just living day after day, hating my life more as the minutes tick. I regret so much in my life - the things I didn't do, the things I have done. What I would've done different. I'm not here to say life is worth living, because most of the time it feels like it's not. There are those rare moments though where I feel a small bit of happiness, but it's all ruined seconds later remembering how much this shit sucks and how much I want out. I'm just afraid if I were to die, I would miss an opportunity that would've guided me and helped make my life a little easier and then I'd be regretful because I'd be dead. It's just a never ending cycle of "what if's"... |
kinkyrose1212 | Re: , 09-22-12 8:04pm I feel that exact same way. SO much regret and disappointment with myself. And like you said, I do have moments or a day here and there where things are good, but then they just drop down so low again. I feel like I've experienced the best times of my life already and there's no point going on any further. Also like you say, once we're dead, for all we know we might find out amazing things that would have happened in our futures that would make us regret suicide. And then things could potentially suck even more because we wouldn't get a do-over. People are always telling me that if I'm not happy I need to do the work to make myself happy, but it's like, no matter what I do or don't do in life, the end result is still death, so why bother dragging it out? |
katiecat | Re: Re: , 09-23-12 7:12pm I try to look on the brighter side and be as optimistic as I possibly can, but my mind races in all sorts of different directions and I just can't help but tell myself what a shitty person I've become and what a disappointment I must be to my parents. I just can't help it. It all comes out. And then I become so emotional from all of these thoughts that I just grab another doughnut and cry myself to sleep. It's such a shame. I never thought I'd see myself here in this position, ever. But I am, and I would like to think that this is rock bottom, because if it isn't, I don't want to know what is. |
kinkyrose1212 | Re: Re: Re: , 09-24-12 12:18am I feel that I am a disappointment, also. I'm unemployed, I've dropped out of college twice, and I essentially wasted all of the money my grandmother left me when she died. I've ruined my life with drug addiction. For the most part I've cut that out, at least, I'm not ended up in hospitals every few months for overdoses, but even though I've given up my " problem drug " it seems like my life hasn't really improved. No, I'm not ending up in ERs and psych wards, which is nice, but other than that, everything is still pretty much the same, so it almost seems like there's no point in staying clean and that if I started using again, maybe the next time I had a massive overdose I could avoid a hospital and just die somewhere. Even on my good days I can't that I'd mind that. I can't usually cry, and to me, that sucks. When I don't feel completely shitty, I'm basically numb, which is horrible, too. Sometimes I emotionally eat, but more often I just have another cigarette ( I always tell people smoking is my way to ensure that I don't live too long ) and sometimes I stay up all night for almost two nights straight just to feel better or at the very least to feel different. Medication and therapy never changed anything for me. I try to tell myself that if I'm not going to commit suicide, I might as well try to enjoy life, but in my eyes, there's really nothing left to enjoy. My heart is with you. |
katiecat | Re: Re: Re: Re: , 09-24-12 9:57pm I dropped out of college twice also. School has never been my thing. I tried to like it and get by, but it's just not the right time for it, I suppose. I would like to get some kind of degree, though. We'll see.
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kinkyrose1212 | Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: , 09-25-12 5:54pm I, too, have no money for school. I found an on line college that only assigns one course at a time which could be perfect for me, but I have a ton of medical debt and although the admissions guy I spoke to told me that you're credit history doesn't matter when it comes to student loans, I somehow just can't believe that. I commend your father for that. Pathetically enough, I was addicted to DXM/cough medicine for about five years. Even though there are no physical withdrawals involved ( not in my case, anyway ), the psychological addiction has been so much harder to break through. I tried NA but even though I do believe in God, I couldn't grasp the higher power thing in the way they were talking about it. I believe ( and I think some of the NA literature even says this ) that true sobriety isn't just not using, it's a state of mind, an enlightenment. And I really never got that. My life is so unsatisfying that if my parents wouldn't kick me out for using, I would much rather deal with the bad side of using DXM and the stays in psych wards than just drift through life being numb and disdainful. To me, even a false happiness from drugs is better than no happiness and at least before I come down into the depression ( in which case I can just use some more and go right back up ) I can feel amazing. Even though I haven't used DXM for a long, I'm still using other things whenever I can. I don't do any hard stuff, though. The urge to get messed up has never left me and when it comes down to the moment when I NEED to get messed up, I will use whatever I can that's not DXM. I resort to overdosing on Benedryl sometimes. And since I moved out here to New Hampshire a month and a half ago, I have considered using DXM again every God damn day and it's really wearing on me and might end up breaking me down. I'm scared to end my life, too. One of the biggest reasons I want to is because the love of my life died and I long to be with him again. But what if I kill myself and that's not how it turns out? It is a comfort to me, too, to know the option is there if things ever get too bad. And also for me, for some reason I NEED to believe that I am " hardcore " or " badass " enough ( stupid, I know ) to be able to do that. One of my best friends killed himself a couple of years ago. And I kind of looked up to him so I think, if HE could do, I should be able to. The only times I really feel invincible and alive is when I'm on DXM. Or sometimes when I'm listening to just the right song that completely enraptures me. Whenever I feel I'm getting close to suicide, the first thought that usually runs through my head is that if I do it, I'll never be able to listen to music again. |
katiecat | Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: , 09-25-12 10:14pm Having good/bad/no credit does not effect your loan application for it. They will accept you no matter what, because it's a federal loan. You MUST pay the loan back, or you will be arrested. Compared to credit card debt, you have the option of filing for bankruptcy if you can't afford to pay it back, but it ruins your credit forever.
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kinkyrose1212 | Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: , 09-26-12 1:15am Well, I'm very glad to hear about the loans. Thank you for confirming that. I do believe God works magic because I have had some confirmation of that in the form of complete strangers asking if they can pray for me and holding me while they do because I was in such a shit place at the time, and this other lady used to come through my line when i was a cashier at job lot. i thought she was nuts because she was freaking out about a necklace i had on saying it was evil and that if i threw it away she would give me a real gold cross. this was the first time i had ever met her. the next day she came back and apologized so i thought she might not be too crazy and then she said, " i only said it because i love you. " And I was thinking, " What the hell!!?!! I don't even know this woman! " Then I went to work at Stop and Shop and low and behold she came through my line there, too, so I thought some weird divine intervention thing may have been going on, but it was probably coincidence. But then, I went to work at Hannaford in the produce department and ran into her there, too! So I finally just listened to her and kind of made friends with her and she gave me these little Jesus cards that I think I still have somewhere. I knew it couldn't just be coincidence anymore. But the way they talk about a higher power in NA, I just can't grasp. And as I said, I haven't felt any particular enlightenment and still want to use every single day. But I agree that if that's what works for someone then they should stick to it. You probably know this, but alcoholism is genetic, too, so that probably has something to do with your drinking. One of my problems that includes but is not limited to alcohol is that when I get fucked up, I really have no limit and want to just get as high/messed up as I can. It has been a very painful process dealing with the loss of Corey. Most of the time these days I'm pretty okay with it because so much time has passed but it is something that will always remain a stain on my heart and soul. It didn't help that I actually woke up on his dead body, although I am glad that I was the last person with him when he was alive and luckily enough, we had spent the night before confessing how deep our love for each other was and how happy we made each other. I know he wouldn't want me to kill myself. He thought suicide was stupid and cowardly. And many other people have asked me if I think that's what he would want. But I just say, well, it really doesn't matter what he would or wouldn't have wanted. To a certain degree, I don't care because I didn't want him to take methadone and die and I've been considering suicide since 11, so his death would in a way be the " excuse " I've been waiting for. As for Gustavo ( the one who purposely killed himself ), well, I don't believe he would want me dead, but one night when I was hanging out with him
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katiecat | Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: , 09-28-12 6:12pm That's a beautiful story, meeting that woman in every place you worked. I'm unsure if I believe in a god, I would consider myself more... spiritual, maybe? But she was like your guardian angel... that's amazing.
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kinkyrose1212 | Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: , 09-29-12 3:10am Haha I had a similar reaction even though I'm the one that changed them. The weirdest thing about that story with the woman is that after she gave me the Jesus cards, I never saw her again. It was like she had fulfilled her purpose in my life and went on to help others that needed it or something. And yes, she probably was a guardian angel because she reminded me SO much of my grandmother who died when I was 17. I consider myself more spiritual as well. I have my own version of God. Not one that a bunch of other people created in their minds and are trying to convince me of. Organized religion is too cult-like for me. I do attend a Catholic service every now and again, because the churches are beautiful, but I was never baptized or anything, which I am very thankful for. I have had the exact same feeling about my life. I ruined and wasted just about everything I've ever had, from cars, to money, to relationships, to college, to my own sanity and self-esteem. This list is nearly endless. The two things I regret most of all, and that have contributed to me feeling like a horrible person are as follows: On the day Corey died, my intuition told me that that was exactly what was going to happen but I ceased to call 911 because of the peer pressure I felt from the young teenagers that were there and more concerned with not getting in trouble than they were about his life. And I went along with it. I was supposed to be his best friend, we were soul mates, the loves of each others' lives and I essentially just let him die. I don't know if I will ever fully forgive myself for that. I've pretty much come to terms with it, though, even though I am still ashamed of and disgusted with myself for my lack of action. I betrayed him in the worst possible way. But no matter how shitty it was, no matter what my motivations ( or lack thereof were ), the fact is, that all of it still happened and there is nothing I can do about it now except for repent to him in any way I can. I suppose I am doing so just by having to live out the rest of my life without him, but I still feel like it's not enough. I'm sure he forgives me, he visits me in my dreams quite often and he's always still deeply in love with and devoted to me. I just wish I could talk to him just once more. Just for two fucking minutes so I could say, " Corey, I love you so much and I am SO sorry! " and just give him one last hug and kiss. That's the main reason I want to die when I do, because I NEED him SO much. And there is no chance of me ever seeing him again unless there is some kind of afterlife. And that is the hardest fact to deal with. If I could kill myelf just to see if he'd be there and then come back to life, I'd do that. Another great regret is the fact that before my second best friend and soul mate, although in a different way than Corey, committed suicide in 2010, I had never made up with him after a sort of fight we had gotten into. He was awesome, too. He also visited me in my dreams, but only twice and it was back during the year he died. I had a dream of Corey the other night. In it, I told him I had been waiting for him to come back to life for SO long and he asked me if I still agreed to be with him forever. Freaky.
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kinkyrose1212 | Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: , 10-04-12 3:10pm My name is Laura and I do try and understand people as much as I can. I think it's really important to try and help everyone we can, in any way we can. No problem about your reading your entries. I wanted to get to know you better and it was only fair since you were reading mine. You are the first person that's commented on any entries in years. Thank you for your happiness at my happiness lol! Things didn't work out with that particular guy, but it's alright. We had a good conversation and that was good enough. Plus I have a few interesting leads, one in particular who I think is even better. He is a lot like Corey, and I know that's not always healthy, but I know he is NOT Corey and don't expect him to be. So it's okay. His name is John. There is another interesting character who has already told me I am the only person who could complete his life and a lot of other beautiful, romantic things, but it worries me because he lives in Nigeria and we've never met and therefor he knows nothing about me other than what is written on my OKCupid profile. I don't know about him...in any case, I feel like you really understand me, too, which is amazing because before you, it was REALLY hard to even hold a conversation with my best friend since first grade because I felt so awkward and insecure. So thank you for that. At any rate, I think you are a very intelligent person in an unfortunate situation and I certainly hope it improves. I've never seen you, but I know you are a beautiful person. NEVER stop believing that. At the very least, you have helped me a lot. |