my terribly snobby high-standard list of things i want in a perfect mate
i need a toto.

someone who's willing toeat with me when i'm hungry, who is secure enough to let me pay for my half of the bill but who's nice enough to offer anyway. someone who can taste and try new things, not just in food, but in life, and who doesn't need to look perfect for me. meaning, whipped cream on the chin is cute, and a mouthful of food is irresistible. i need a human-being, not a model. and screw diets, eat when you're hungry!

i need a hoo-hahsexual.

comfortable with physical intimacy, understands the difference between love and heat, can diffrentiate between passion and errotica. it's ok to show me how you feel sometimes, without saying anything, because it's different when it's with feelings. it's ok to experiment, and try new things, but it's also ok to have boudaries and respect the limits and sanctities of the human body.

i need an activist.

so maybe you don't march on the abortion clinic every weekend, but still, everybody's got to believe in something and follow it through, all the way. it works if i don't agree with it, because disagreements make life interesting. i can't stand someone who's totally indifferent, there's got to be some drive in his life. i don't care what it is, but care about something to the point of healthy obsession, and make that your passion, your motivation, all that jazz.

i need a genius.

maybe not a literal genius, but someone who knows what he knows and is willing to learn. i'm full of useless information, and he should be too, because it's so much fun sharing those tidbits. i can't stand it when someone goes "what's your favourite subject in school?" and this person goes "nothing, i hate school." you've got to love something you learned in school. physics, chemistry, biology, history, mathematics, anything.

i need art.

how many girls do you know aren't suckers for an artist? a painter, a sketcher, a sculptor, a musician, a dancer, a singer, a writer. smart is fun, but artists see the other side of it, they see the beauty of simplicity as opposed to the thrill of the complex. someone who can appreciate the miracle in a cool breeze doesn't need to be able to explain it scientifically, he just needs to feel it. artists can feel things in a sort of strange way that science can't explain. it's the mystery that makes them so wonderful.

i need a flaw.

so i've described mr. perfect. well who wants perfect? perfect is boring, and everyone interesting's gotta have a character flaw. maybe he's shy, maybe he makes funny smacking noises when he eats, maybe he bites his nails. it's adorable. he's gotta fall down somewhere, some place along the line there's got to be a crack in the sidewalk. he can't be irksomely perfect all the time.

i need to laugh.

a sense of humor is a MUST HAVE. even if he's not funny, he's gotta laugh when someone/something else is. laughter makes life easier. i'm sure some famous dead person said that. it's great to be able to laugh with someone, it automatically makes you comfortable with them. friends, family, whatever. if you don't laugh together, chances are you're not at ease with one another. then again, it's a fine line between the genuinely funny and the obnoxious/retarted funny. i'm not 6 anymore, contarary to popular belief.

i need to eat.

hoo-hah is hoo-hah and a girl's gotta eat. he needs to be yummy.

i need to breathe.

i cannot live with a neatness freak. i just can't. i need to live in a land where people can spill and throw and forget to put things away. i need to live in a place where there is no anti-bacterial for everything. i have to settle down in a place where it's ok to be messy and a slob. where it's ok to eat food off the floor and occasionally wipe your nose on your sleeve and once in a while wear the same socks for 4 or 5 days in a row. i can't stand germaphobes, and i have to have stains on my furniture.

misch.

- doesn't compulsively shake his knee (you know what i mean?)
- listens to good music
- reads for pleasure
- appreciates me
- belives in women's rights
- admits his flaws and can ask for help
- will stop for directions
- helps out with "girly" things like cooking and cleaning
- can operate a washing machine
- isn't intimidated by me
- is ok with us not being attatched at the hip 24/7
- has other friends
- lets me have other friends
- can be romantic on occasion
- is ok with forgetting birthdays and anniversaries
- doesn't think marriage is a plot by the government to keep tabs on us
- belives in God
- doesn't do drugs or alcohol
- cares enough to make me quit smoking
- can be honest enough to say "you're putting on some weight" or "if you do that it's just plain stupid"
- lets me clean his nails for him
- will play with my hair
- is faithful
- never breaks a promise
- is mature enough to know when to let things go
- doesn't insult my tastes or opinions
- wants to have children and then actually help take care of them
- belives in love

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